Motherhood: Hostess with the Mostess!
"Houseguests always make you happy, some by coming, others by going!"
Being a mother is like being a hostess! Except your houseguest is going to be around for awhile, they’re going to cost you a lot of money, destroy your home, and be the most amazing guest you’ve ever had.
When you’re pregnant and scared, just think of your baby as coming for the weekend. You need to think of what to do with a baby and what you can offer or suggest to make their stay as pleasant as possible.
First, you create a space, turn on the radio, listen to some Taylor Swift and look around to see what you already have! Babies, like most houseguests, don’t need much. A place to sleep, some clean clothes and a few nice things to look at.
Next, you want to be sure you have plenty of yours and their favourite foods! Head to Tim’s and pick up a dozen to snack on throughout the day for yourself, one-handed foods will be your saviour! Baby will be happy with some breastmilk, from you, or from a bottle, or some formula that’s ready to go in the fridge. Think about how many bottles you’ll need, how you can efficiently clean them and how best to store the food. If you’re going to breastfeed, think about a comfortable place for baby to eat and something to keep yourself occupied, you can learn more about this in your private childbirth class.
You’ll for sure want to spend some dedicated days with this particular guest. Take some time before their arrival to plan for time off, who can help with the household chores, etc. so that you can give your undivided attention to your special guest. Babies don’t have a set schedule, so think about who can take them out on the town when you need to get some rest.
Every good houseguest will leave a little something when it’s time to move along; this guest will give you many gifts during their time with you. As you learn and grow you’ll figure out how to face every new challenge together, the love they share with you every single day will be the most amazing gift you’ll ever receive.
Heather is a certified DONA birth and postpartum doula, certified Lamaze childbirth educator, certified breastfeeding educator, as well as a certified Henna artist. She has been an active Calgary doula for the past eight years, is the past-president of the Calgary Doula Association, and was the former provincial representative of Alberta (SPAR) for DONA International. Heather is also a birth doula trainer and the owner of Doula Essentials. She is well-known within the international doula community and greatly respected by the medical providers in the city of Calgary and surrounding areas. She takes great pride supporting her clients through the entire journey to parenthood, from prenatal education through to breastfeeding support.