Lusty or Lethargic: Your Pregnancy Sex DrivePregnancy
You're hot then you're cold.
You're yes then you're no.
Actually, you're just pregnant.
Pregnancy sex drive can fluctuate dramatically, often turning you off in the early weeks, only for you to feel kind of frisky during the middle months, to you once again shutting down your libido near the end of your pregnancy. There aren’t any ‘normal’ guidelines for intercourse during pregnancy; it can be quite the roller coaster ride for all parties involved! Remember that as long as your health care provider has given you the go ahead, it’s perfectly safe to have sex throughout your pregnancy.
During the first trimester you may feel nauseous, exhausted, and your breasts may be extremely sensitive—symptoms which aren’t exactly conducive to a roll in the hay. On the other hand, you may find that you feel really sexy and want to celebrate your new figure. Follow whatever your body is telling you in the sex department.
As you enter the second trimester you will usually feel more emotionally connected than ever to your partner and this can spark heightened levels of intimacy. As this trimester progresses increased levels of the hormones oxytocin, estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone can make sex a whole lot more enjoyable too. Who knew your desire could spark that early morning, mid-afternoon, or late evening delight this often—there’s a reason pregnant women glow!
It’s also perfectly normal for your sex drive to plummet as you advance into the last trimester of pregnancy. You may worry about harming the baby as you get bigger, or sex may be off the table due to a complication that puts a damper on your sexual desires. You may feel uncomfortable with hemorrhoids and heartburn, or you may feel undesirable with your new shape come the third trimester. Finding a position that works may make sex a challenge as well. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
Your significant other also may have a different sexual response to you during pregnancy. You may find that your partner becomes more protective and loving, or your partner may go through their own emotional changes and could withdraw from your intimate relationship. Just keep the lines of communication open and respect each other’s feelings on the subject. Know you can enjoy intimacy in other ways, it doesn’t always need to be between the sheets.
So whether or not you’re feeling more or less sexually motivated in pregnancy, what you’re feeling is normal for you. Enjoy it while it lasts because once baby is here, the wait to resume sex again can be quite long for some.
Loree Siermachesky works as a multi-certified labour and postpartum doula, certified Lamaze childbirth educator, certified breastfeeding counselor, certified placenta encapsulation specialist and a certified car seat technician in Medicine Hat and Lethbridge. She has had the honour of attending over 1400 births in the last 20 years. She is well-known and greatly respected by the medical providers in Medicine Hat, Lethbridge, Brooks, Taber, and Calgary. She cares deeply for this profession and even more for her clientele, honoring them in whatever method of birth they choose, or helping them transition to new parenthood as they wish.